select
o.*,
SUM(if(ol.status = "Approved" and (ol.end_date > now() or end_date is null), 1, 0)) as cond1,
SUM(if(ol.status = "Pending" and (ol.end_date != now() or end_date is null), 1, 0)) as cond2
from
outreach o
left join
outreach_links ol on ol.outreach_id = o.id
group by
o.id
having
cond1 = 0 and cond2 != 1
;
No estoy seguro de si eso es lo que está buscando, pero puede intentarlo.